Lakin continues, “Think of yourself in the role of storyteller . . . instead of as the victim who has been wronged and deserves retribution or pity . . .” For all the memoirists who are reluctant to write about difficult episodes because they don’t want to come off as whiners, this is wonderful advice. It can be a game-changer. As Lakin points out, understanding this distinction can happen only when you understand your motivation for telling your story. Do you want revenge? Or do you want clarity, as Tara Westover does in Educated? Soul-searching is the required first step. Look in the mirror. Don’t flinch.
Lakin, C. S. The Memoir Workbook: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Brainstorm, Organize, and Write Your Unique Story. Ubiquitous Press, 2017, p. 13.